I really admire when someone is brave enough to show their scars. Necole Bitchie, Founder of XONecole.com formerly known as NecoleBitchie.com and has lived a very full life and on the surface, it’s easy for people to assume that she has no stress or worries. But in the above clip she takes down her wall, releases her tears and talks about what it’s like behind-the-scenes. One of the best and brightest lessons I took away from this clip is that it’s okay to hit the reset button as many times as you need to.

Girlfriend, yes! 

I hit that button every single time I need to. I don’t care what anyone thinks or says. When it’s time, it’s time. Here are some of my favorite points from her talk.

Necole on July 2, 2015….
The importance of letting go. After 8 successful years as a celebrity gossip blogger, she knew at some point she had to plan for the next phase of her life. Instead of confiding in friends and family, she chose to have an important conversation with herself, took a leap of faith and jumped. I can’t tell you how many of these conversations I’ve also had in my head over the years. That tiny voice can drive you crazy, but the worst thing you can do is ignore your intuition.

Necole on spreading positivity… 
This resonated with me so much because I was also part of an industry where I no longer felt fulfilled. Most people don’t know this but my first business that I started around the age of 17 was in the world of fashion. I was a celebrity stylist alongside my business partner Bianca. We worked in the music and entertainment industry, traveled, rubbed shoulders with high-profile ballers and all that good shit. But one day on the set of a video for a very popular rapper I won’t mention, while I was getting his video girl ready for her scene out of nowhere she started crying in the bathroom. I panicked a little. I didn’t know what to do. But then she started telling me that she was scouted in a mall by her “agent” and that she was so unhappy about where she was at in her life. Dancing in videos was never a part of the dream but she felt trapped and was oddly addicted to the money and attention from men because it put a band-aid over her insecurities. It got deep. But the short version is that I felt awful. Here I was tying her bikini string and encouraging her to do something that I didn’t even support. I was contributing to the problem and at that point moving forward I decided to leave the business and move on pursuing what I am doing today.

Necole on investing in herself…
An investment in yourself is an investment in your company. She spent every last dime she had to ensure that the new site would be a success but sometimes what we envision in our minds does not always unfold in reality. This is where patience is important. Everything will not always go according to plan, but you have to know how to bend, not break.

Necole on falling apart… 
It happens to all of us. Don’t be fooled by the highlights on Instagram. Vulnerability is strength and I thought this was so courageous of Necole. I don’t think how much people understand that pursuing a passion of any kind is hard. No, it’s brutal. But we do it because it is our oxygen and we cannot imagine doing anything else.