Hands down, there are 2 relationship books that I highly recommend: Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man & He’s Just Not That Into You. I own both, have seen the films and have also used many of the lessons in my own love life [they are actually part of the reason I am madly in love with my mate today]. Today, I’d like to bring your focus to a little book that I believe will give you a really good reality check.
I have a good friend who is in an unhealthy relationship. She’s miserable, feels trapped and her professional life has been negatively effected by her boyfriend’s demands and crappy attitude. I’ve tried to do what I can, but I can only do so much. Now, I just observe from the sidelines and pray to God over and over that she will gain the strength to leave and begin repairing herself mentally, physically and emotionally. Of course it will take more than a book to get the message through to her, but it’s a start. Whether you are currently single or in a relationship, this is a perfect opportunity to re-evaluate your standards.
Here are some of my favorite passages:
“If a guy is into you, he lets you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can’t keep his hands off of you. If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already know the answer. Stop making excuses for him; his actions are screaming the truth: he’s just not that into you. He’s a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from you life.” (He’s just not that into you)
“He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you. Men know how to use the phone.” (He’s just not that into you)
“If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you.” (He’s just not that into you)
OVERVIEW: For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze and obsess over the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that-despite good intentions-it’s an utter waste of time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like women to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be: He’s just not that into you.
Straightforward and sensible, He’s Just Not That Into You educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn’t like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. [Indigo.ca]
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Peace & Love,