“Today, my sense of self, peace of mind and understanding starts and ends with me. No matter how long it took, or how many hurdles I will face along the way, my foundation is set, my healthy boundaries are built and I am fulfilled. We all deserve to come home to ourselves and be happy with what we have manifested. It took a while for me to understand that creating boundaries was not the same as building barriers.”
“what i have learned on my self-care journey is this: unwinding, decompressing, and saying “no,” is a must in my growth and healing process. stepping into self-care was like getting to know who i was all over again. learning to be unapologetically myself was challenging, rewarding and humbling all at once. life lessons look different for everyone. take care of yourself.”
“#gentlereminder // There will be moments in life when standing alone is necessary, even if that isn’t your ideal situation. Despite the changes that are thrown your way, trust in your ability to unfold and grow through the things that make you uncomfortable. You can’t force anyone to see you or stand with you. All you can do is show up and stay confident in what you believe in. The people who are meant to lift you up, hold you up, and rise with you, will do just that. Until then, continue to live intentionally, mindfully, and courageously. Your destiny doesn’t require validation from others. Know yourself and trust in your worth.”
notes on being ready for love:
“my husband took this photo. he likes capturing me and i like being his muse (most days). i’ve touched on this before, but i just wanted to share a little encouragement with y’all (especially the newbies just joining the journey). for those of you ready for love, keep preparing. before @ry.spear and i met there were quite a few frogs that were kissed. and it wasn’t until i took a step back and started perfecting the relationship with myself that ryan came along. the year i met him my mantra was “practice patience.” so when i found out he was 3,500 miles away in California, we really had to work for the connection that we created. and for almost 6 months we built a friendship via factime/phone calls + skype.
there was a point in time that i never thought i would find a man worthy of my heart. i didn’t think marriage was in the cards for me, either. but things were different when my husband came along. i knew he was the one because we didn’t (have to) complete each other, but instead, we balanced one another out. he’s strong where i am weak and vice versa. i lift him up when he needs a hand and vice versa. we are in a true + healthy friendship/partnership/relationship. that is what i always wanted.
so for those of you waiting and wishing and praying, your partner in love is doing the same thing. keep working on yourself. keep standing tall in your healing and self-love. you don’t have to look for love, you’ll know when it shows up.
i feel blessed to have partner in my life who adores me, encourages me, and uplifts me. it’s something i could only dream of once upon a time. but i have since learned love is real when it’s right.”