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In 2009 I went through a really bad break up which left me devastated and heartbroken because I didn’t see it coming. I will admit, not only was I heart broken but my self-confidence and self-esteem was broken for a long while after that. Hey, just like any other woman, I also want to feel loved and accepted, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized that I have the power to give these gifts to myself. Whether single or taken, I am always thinking of fun and interesting ways to express self-love. Romancing myself is my way of making my heart smile, building my confidence, and feeling like a 10 every time I walk out that front door… you know, keepin’ it sexy. It’s my way of showing myself respect, love and loyalty. In the process of giving so much of ourselves to other people, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost touch with who you are. Below is the Single Girls’ To-Do List which consists of my all-time favorite things to do when I need a pick me up or just want to do something special for me. I heard a saying once, “If you aren’t happy single, then you’ll never be happy taken. Happiness should come from within, not from money, material things, or men” – That’s the realest shit I’ve heard in a long time. Remember, the way you treat yourself sets the standard for others so don’t hesitate to make yourself a priority. Peep my list of recommendations below:

Take Yourself On Your Ideal Date: Life gets easier when you become your own best friend. I’ve got so much love for other people but I love me more and there are times when I enjoy taking myself on a date. I love going to restaurants, the movies, heck, last year I took myself to a live theatre show after a full day of pampering. Dating yourself is oh so necessary. Go ahead; splurge. Spending time with you is time well spent and builds your confidence too!

Buy Yourself Flowers: I owe my friend Shannae a huge thanks for this tip. There’s something about fresh flowers that brightens both your mood and your day overall.

Stand In Front Of Your Mirror Naked: In case you didn’t know self-confidence is the best outfit. Rock it and own it. Love who you are, just the way you are. Your flaws are what make you beautiful.

Be Bold and Daring: Think of something you’ve always wanted to try and just do it. Perhaps you want to take an art or salsa dancing class, travel alone, or dye your hair an outrageous color. Express yourself in a way that will force you out of your comfort zone.

Create a Positive Affirmation: Recite it daily but don’t just say it, you’ve gotta feel it. For example, mine is, “I love the woman I’m becoming.” I say this to myself every single day because I truly believe it. In losing who I once was I discovered the person I wanted to be so this affirmation is very meaningful to me. For you, it could also be something deep or really simple like a girlfriend of mine tells herself every morning, “Do more than just exist.” — Loves it!

Peace & Love,